5 Things Never to Say to a Woman Who Succeeds
Let's face it - women oftentimes don't get the credit they deserve. When a woman (or anyone) succeeds, there is a reason for it, but there are some who don’t think that the reason has anything do with hard work or quality products. Instead, it is attributed to any number of the following reasons, and it needs to stop.
You got lucky.
I'm willing to acknowledge that, sometimes, success has a component of luck to it. Nailing a presentation because you were randomly assigned a good topic is a great example, but luck does not account for everything. Instead, it is a starting point, because success is incumbent upon doing something that luck, and that takes skill.
That's because you know so-and-so.
This is one I have heard many times over the years. Yes, knowing people has its advantages, but just because someone knows you doesn't mean they trust in your abilities. If someone "important" tasks a woman with a project, then it is for a reason and that reason needs to be acknowledged for its own merits.
It's not really a big deal.
Success in any form is a big deal because it takes time, dedication, and talent. Big or small, successes deserve to be treated as such and minimizing them only makes the other person look like a jerk.
It's a good thing such and such happened.
This one is irksome because it is so common and completely unnecessary. Any path to success is paved with "things" happening, but that does not mean that "thing" is the sole reason for someone's end result.
No. Just no. This word but renders anything previously said useless and negates any congratulations one has to offer. Oftentimes unintentional, this little word is counterproductive.
What do you wish people would stop saying?